Have you received enough this year? Most of us will say: “No, not even close.” I’m one of those people. I’m one of the most cynical people that I know because I’ve seen some of the worst in human behavior as part of my job as a real estate salesperson and I’ve let it eat at me over the years. I just recently made some extremely cynical comments regarding Nicole Bollerman’s $150,000 gift to UP Academy Dorchester on Reddit and I regret them. My outlook and my perspective need to change.
I took some time to reflect this morning because the people around me really like Christmas. I don’t like Christmas anymore. Too much commercialization. Too many feelings of inadequacy. Too many feelings of regret. Are you one of those people that no longer like Christmas? Because those are the people that I’m speaking to this Christmas Day.
What makes us feel good, easily? Receiving. Getting things. We really don’t have to do much to receive. We get a quick twinge of that dopamine that we all unknowingly crave and love. If we’re nice we say “thank you” and maybe give a hug if it’s appropriate.
So that leads me back to the question: “Have you received enough this year?” And the answer: “No, not even close.” Why haven’t we received what we think we’re due? It’s, for most of us, because we haven’t given enough. Think about it for a second. What have you done lately that was selfless? Have you dedicated at least a morning out of your month to giving? We can’t control what we receive but we can control what we give.
You don’t have to be famous or rich to give. The famous and rich have publicists to publicize all their “good deeds”. Don’t worry about any of that. The best publicity that you can get for giving is the heart-felt word of mouth that comes with your acts of giving.
You may immediately question yourself. “I have no worth. What can I give?” You may feel too broken, too proud or too self-centered to give. You’re wrong! You don’t have to have any money to give. You can be millions of dollars in debt but you can still give! You can be ethically and morally bankrupt but you can still give. Isn’t that cool?
Here are some of the ways, in relation to real estate, that you can give:
- Organize a group to clean and/or landscape vacant lots once a month
- Organize a group to clean and/or landscape and/or paint the properties of the elderly and/or the poor
- Join a real estate related group like Habitat for Humanity Greater Boston or create your own
You can get involved with the Boston Main Streets Foundation:
- Allston Village Main Streets
- Bowdoin Geneva Main Streets – It needs help developing it’s own site.
- Brighton Main Streets
- Chinatown Main Streets
- Dudley Square Main Streets – Located in Dorchester. Its site seems to be down.
- East Boston Main Streets
- Egleston Square Main Streets – Located between Jamaica Plain and Roxbury.
- Field’s Corner Main Streets – Located at the intersection of Adams Street and Dorchester Avenue in Dorchester.
- Four Corners Main Streets – Located by the corner of Harvard Street and Washington Street in Dorchester.
- Hyde Jackson Square Main Streets – Located around Hyde Square and Jackson Square in Jamaica Plain.
- Hyde Park Main Streets
- JP Centre St Main Streets – Located in Jamaica Plain. Its site is woefully undeveloped.
- Mission Hill Main Streets – Located between The Fenway and Jamaica Plain.
- Roslindale Village Main Streets
- St. Mark’s Area Main Streets – Located by St Mark’s at 1725 Dorchester Avenue, Dorchester on Google Maps.
- Uphams’s Corner Main Streets – Located by Columbia Road at the intersection of Dudley Street and Stoughton Street.
- Washington Gateway Main Streets – Located by Roxbury and the South End.
- West Roxbury Main Streets
Giving, when it becomes a habit and when it’s done right, may not even feel like a chore or a job after a while. Giving may not give you the immediate high that you might get from receiving an Xbox One but it will provide a nice release of dopamine throughout your life. Giving will help you connect with other human beings. Do you have problems in your life that you think are insurmountable? Do you think that you have nothing to give? Then give. I know that it’s time for me to start giving.